According to Leon Cytryn and Donald Mcknew, in “I Wish I Wasn’t Alive” and “Guideline to Handling Depressed Children” in “Growing Up Sad,” 1998, page 65-80, and page 144-152, in recent year, more and more depressed children have suicidal ideas and the rate of suicidal children are increasing rapidly. The writer indicated that mother’s leaving, sibling’s arriving and childhood sexual abusing are the factors that contribute to suicidal children. Suicidal child’s mother gets upset more often than no suicidal child, the article explained. The authors described that suicidal child feel “hopelessness, worthlessness, depression and wish to die” (Cytryn and Mcknew, 1998, page 74) and they worried about their family member’s dying and the idea of death appear to their mind more often than non suicidal children. The writers also showed a equation to us, which is represented depressed young children: “sad= mad =bad” (Cytryn and Mcknew, 1998, page 73), when the depressed children think they are bad, “suicide appear to be a solution” (Cytryn and Mcknew, 1998, page 69) for them. When a child say that he/she wants to die, parents and teachers should take this seriously, and don’t think they are just kidding, because they are kids, the authors suggested. The article reported that parents should be initiative and talk to their children first; don’t wait for their kids to talk to them, and they need to be patient and listen to their kid. Parents are not supposed to blame their children for everything that goes wrong in their family, they have to pay more attention and five more love and emotional support to their children, Cytryn and Mcknew resulted.
Critique:
After I read the chapter, I was shocked. In my opinion, young children are always very happy, even they get sad sometimes, but they are children, they can become happy immediately. I never think that young kid will have suicidal ideas. According to the article, there are more than half depressed children want to kill themselves and the suicidal thoughts come to their mind very easily. Children are really sensitive, when their parents need to go out or their parents are so busy, therefore they don’t have enough time to stay with their children. Then, the kids will start to blame themselves and think that they are very bad, so, their parents don’t care about them anymore. Then, their solution to this kind of problem is suicide. I think if I have a child, and my kid told me that he/she wants to kill himself/ herself, I will think they are just kidding. I won’t take this serious. After I read the article, I changed my mind, if I have a child, I have to listen to my kid and talk to them and don’t regard child as child. Maybe depressed children are not kidding; maybe they really suffer from difficult situation. I think parents should spend more time in talking and playing with their children.
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HI TangNa! I was shocked when i heard your summary. I have never thought that children can feel they want to suicide because they always look happy and excited. Also, they can feel that they are bad and they have to die ??!!! It is really scary and i do not want my children to think like that in the future. In addition, we must not let them know how to kill themselves. In my opinion, it is recommand that we should not show children violent movies or shows. Also, children can be depressed because of abuse. It is the most terrible thing that i heard. Children are not supposed to be abused!!! One more thing that i was interested is parents cannot show their depression to children. It may cause their children' depression! I agree with that, and your summary is always useful for my future children!!! : )
thank you for sharing your information TangNa!
Hi,Tang Na,it's Shawn. It is unbelievable that the children have the ideas like suicide, I can't imagine that. In my mind,childhood is always the happiest time in one person's ylife.All the parents should notice this, this is a terrible problem, every adult has the responsiblity to avoid this kind of things' happen.One thing you mentioned is important, whcih is when a kid said he want to commit suicide, the parents should pay more attention on him/her and take this seriously. Because a happy kid would never said like this,since he/she said this, he/she already have the idea,not just a joke. Moreover,if the parents could solve the problem before it happen,which means they could help their children not having this kind of idea at all, that will be perfect. You also suggest something like talking to the children very often and know what they are thinking about. That could help them. Hope every parent would hear something like "I wish I could fly" instead of"I wish I wasn't alive" from their chidren.
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